Many, many, many of us who are overweight have problems with liking ourselves, problems being liked or loved. We want comfort, want peace, want joy, want success, want attention, want love, want. We want.
We try to fill up that big gaping hole of want. And often shoveling food (or pouring alcohol or popping pills) into it seems like a good idea.
If you kind of suspect it’s not a good idea at all, there are plenty of ways to get help. You can see a counselor try group therapy, join a 12-step program. These are all good. You can work on your own, with a journal. That really can help a lot too. Try talking it out with a friend, with a cleric, with a mentor. All good.
But when you know you’ve got your food and emotions all tied together, you would do yourself a great service by getting ahold of Geneen Roth’s books, tapes, attending a workshop.
This lady does a terrific job of helping people discover and untie the complex and intricate macramé of emotional knots that lead to compulsive, binge, emotional eating behaviors.
She’s been there, so she gets it. She struggles constantly with the problem, so understands how it requires regular focus and work. She’s created immediately useful, accessible, and inexpensive tools for helping people recover from eating disorders and lead more peaceful lives.
She’s not an advocate of dieting. I’m going to tell you right now that the first of her books I have read, “When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair,” is enormously challenging to me. Compulsive dieting is as tough on our psyches as compulsive eating. We know to maintain a massive weight loss requires focus. At the same time, we know we need to find balance.
I think the ideas Roth presents will help lead us to that balance, help us enjoy eating, learn to eat without guilt, learn to treat ourselves well, take the shame out of the simple act of eating.
Roth is out touring to promote her new book, which was released June 1. It’s a good time to catch her for autographs in a bookstore near you.