Reader Kathryn raised a great question today. Kathryn has successfully lost a great deal of weight and knows how hard it is to make the changes, do the hard work to lose weight. She also knows how worthwhile weight loss is.
Today she works for a large organization, and regularly crosses paths with a woman who is morbidly obese, perhaps 300 pounds or more. The woman can’t or won’t or doesn’t make eye contact, so Kathryn’s having a hard time meeting her. But she’d like to extend friendship/support to this woman.
She, like many people who have succesfully lost weight — I’m among them — worry a lot about people who don’t receive sufficient support, information, counsel. We know that having a LOT of resources makes a huge difference. We know we couldn’t have lost our weight without it.
Now, I receive similar versions of this question all the time. Or people I know fully expect me to walk right up to overweight people and hand them a Skinny Daily card. But my pat answer is, of course, that I can’t do that. The other person’s weight is none of my business. I can’t assume a heavy person is miserable or ill.
So I’m opening the question for discussion to Skinny Daily readers. If and when we know we can offer support to heavy people who may (or may not) be struggling, what is our response? What is our responsibility? What is our opportunity, if any? What can or should we do to make ourselves more available, to share our experiences in a way that is helpful, never burdensome, to others?
Remember when you were at your heaviest? What would you have wanted or needed from a formerly heavy person?
Anybody want to weigh in? Er… so to speak? Post your comments below. Remember it’s fine to post anonymously.