There was a recent internet article on strategies for curbing emotional spending. Did anyone see it? Just substitute a few words here and there, and let’s look at what we have!
The reasons for emotional spending:
Cope with stress.
Cure the blues.
Diffuse feelings of anger or frustration.
Soothe ourselves after a bad day
Some of us surely see ourselves in these lists! We often DO use food as rewards, to soothe our raw feelings, and the ever-popular stress eating. And as we often discuss, we have to figure out how to deal with these issues. According to people who deal with emotional spending, the coping strategies are the same:
Notice the feelings.
Sort out the fantasies.
Beware of small purchases.
Avoid retail situations.
Create unique solutions.
Let your priorities be your guide.
We have to acknowledge what we’re feeling, to name these feelings and decide what to do. We have to sort out the fantasies in the sense that we have to realize that no matter what we eat, it won’t solve the problem. Small amounts of food add up quickly, as we all know, yet giving ourselves a small treat can be helpful. Avoiding food situations? Of course. Just look over some of the posts and responses right here at SDP!
And we’re always discussing creative solutions to the emotional eating and other hurdles we have to deal with. Keeping our priorities in mind helps focus us on what we need to do. Whether it’s being able to play with the children, travel, or simply walk to the corner and back, we are in this for the long haul!
So bottom line, compulsive behavior is compulsive behavior. While we sometimes might think that we’re the only people in the world who deal with this, looking around at other people might show us a different reality. And maybe – just maybe – some of the answers we need are in a different box. Some rummaging might turn up just the right strategy or bit of wisdom for our journey.