A couple of weeks ago, I had a serious confrontation with a family member. The issue isnít important. But what shocked me was that immediately afterwards, I felt as if I gained 150 pounds in 10 minutes! There was a strong feeling around my midsection [the core!] of EXPANSION, before my very eyes! And it didnít help that I was wearing shorts that fit when I weighed 500 pounds.
Fortunately, there was some part of my brain that took a dispassionate, realistic view of the situation. It told me to go put on those jeans that you wore a couple of days ago Ė the ones you can take on and off without unfastening. That little voice had to repeat this message several times, Iím sorry to say.
The jeans went on perfectly, without any unfastening. And then the voice continued, telling me to put on a shirt that fits, for heavens sake, and take off the one thatís three sizes too big! I obeyed a little faster.
When I finished, finally wearing clothes that fit, I stood in front of the mirror and looked. But more importantly, I looked down, and could still see my feet!
Reality finally sunk in! Arenít we glad that I didnít turn this into a binge????
Several important lessons came out of this. First, anger alone doesnít make me fat, nor does standing up for myself and speaking my mind. EATING in response to the anger in an effort to soothe or distract, or to swallow the emotion will make me fat.
Second, reality isnít always a bad thing.
Third, the negative emotion will pass, whether or not I eat. Perhaps this is the biggest lesson. Eating doesnít fix a bad situation, nor does it make the emotion pass any faster. In fact, by not acknowledging what Iím feeling, the emotions actually stay around longer!
Fourth, the core Ė at least for me Ė really does carry a whole pile of emotion.
These lessons are important. And now the real challenge, to figure out how to use them, and to build on them. Iíll keep you posted.