One of my oldest and dearest friends (more than 25 years now!) saw the NYTimes thing, and (besides loving it and being impressed) said that she’s always amazed at the prejudices that people have about HER.
Now, let’s set the record straight here. She’s in her early 60’s and looks about 40. She’s talented, slim, smart, and on and on and on. The idea that someone would have prejudices about her is just, well, astounding to me.
But here’s the main one. Because her weight never varies by more than 5 pounds, apparently people think that she doesn’t pay attention to her diet, doesn’t exercise, and doesn’t understand what anyone else goes through.
For the record, this woman has stood by me, and fussed and worried over me when I weighed 500 pounds. She’s looked at me and said that she loves me no matter what my weight, but that she’d prefer that I’d be around to travel and have fun with.
The reason her weight never varies by more than 5 pounds is because she gets it. And lives it.
Every single morning, she does about an hour of floor exercises. She’s done it for years. She watches everything she eats. I can’t tell you how often she says ‘this is enough.’ Or ‘I have enough,’ ‘I don’t need any more.’
She walks everywhere, and always has.
Now, sit back and think about the people in your life. How many of them past the age of, say, 35 aren’t watching what they’re doing? They may not understand what it’s like to be 100 pounds or more overweight, but they’re busy with their own struggles. For some, it’s the first time in their lives that they’ve had to be careful, and they’re lost. For others, it’s simply time to tweak what they’ve been doing, whether it’s adding more exercise time or cutting out a few calories. I admire them, but IMO, they DO understand.