Weight management takes work. Whether you’re losing or maintaining, working on losing a lot or a little [or, as alien as it may sound to most of us, trying to gain some weight!], we all need to pay attention to food and exercise.
There are lots of ways to motivate this undertaking. Some do it strictly for health, and others for looks. Some do it almost out of habit [we all know people who are constantly on a diet and define themselves by their current diet], and others are new. There’s also self-love, self-hate, anger, frustration. Pick and choose in various amounts, and add your own motivation.
Maybe it’s my old age, but I’m getting tired of considering it a battle. Years ago, I told someone that I wasn’t dieting at that moment because I just couldn’t generate the self-hate I needed. The response: why not do it out of self-love? A foreign concept at that time.
But now that I’m so old, it’s time, I think, to view this not as a battle, but as part of accepting myself with love and kindness. It’s not a new theme around here, but as I look over my life, I’m tired of fighting. Fighting traffic, lines in the store, utility companies, dust, work-related issues, finances, banks, bills, etc, etc etc, takes a lot out of a person.
And, most important, I’m tired of fighting with myself. I want to rest, perhaps in an always-warm bubble bath. I want to be at peace with myself. So, maybe, switching from this ‘fighting the battle’ analogy to ‘luxuriating in the love and care’ I can provide myself will help.
It’s going to take some time for me to do such a major mind-switch, but ‘fighting a battle’ leads to, well, battle fatigue. It’s not sustainable.
By the way, the fact that I just finished a very nice lunch [a reasonable chef salad with LC dressing] might have something to do with this self-love post. I’m comfortably full, and it tasted very good. It’s probably easier to think about self-love from this comfortable position, rather than when brimming over with stress and confronted with a plate of cookies or a bowl of chips. But a person has to start somewhere.
This seems to be as good a place as any!