Do you believe it? I was surprised – flattered, but surprised.
But it really hit home on a couple of levels. The lovely lady who said this was quite slim and trim. She’s working on losing the next 30 pounds. (I couldn’t see it, but what do I know?!)And amazingly, she’s already lost more than 130 pounds, and has kept it off for about a year.
That’s fabulous – and so very impressive.
But, as we all know, few of us see ourselves as we really are. And there are even some of us who don’t see others as they really are.
Why are we so charitable towards others and so hard on ourselves? Is it part of our desire to be liked, so that we see others with more – what’s the word – forgiveness? kindness? tolerance? respect? Or are we forever comparing ourselves to others, and we never measure up?
I have no answers here. In fact, there are times that I just shake my head with some amusement, and chalk it up to the fact that we’re all wired differently.
But bottom line, at my weight, there’s no way I can be considered skinny, and that’s an objective assessment based on scale numbers and clothing sizes. Toned, maybe, at least on a good day. Not standing out in a crowd. Yes, that, too.
This other lady, who wears about a size 12 or so, I think, and has collarbones showing, is definitely not fat, and doesn’t appear to be overweight.
We all have to develop and maintain some degree of objectivity about ourselves. We don’t have to be judgmental about it, but we do have to acknowledge reality. And that reality has to be based on something that’s REAL, and not a comparison with anyone else. The ‘realness’ could mean hauling out a tape measure and tracking inches. Or the evil scale. Or something as simple as the basic pants-o-meter.
But it’s gotta be something objective so that we can see it. REALLY see it.