Remember the last time you were able to lose weight and keep it off? It was a LONG time ago for me, and I’ve been trying to remember what made it all work for me.
First, I lived alone, in a city with good public transportation, and my job, in a busy hospital lab, was a 15 minute bus ride away. I was on my feet a lot back then, and when it was time to go home, I’d get off the bus about 3 stops early and walk home – about a mile. And I’d stop at the grocery store every single day, and buy what I wanted for dinner, and lunch the next day. Just the right amount, very portion controlled.
In general, I ate higher protein, almost all of it as fish, lots of veggies, and low [not no!] carbs. No alcohol, no sweets. My biggest treat was a ‘milkshake’ made with some buttermilk and frozen strawberries, poured into a stemmed goblet and enjoyed in a bubble bath.
And for recreation, I walked everywhere. The buses didn’t run often outside of rush hours, so it didn’t always make sense to wait. It was about 2 miles to my best friend’s apartment, and then we’d figure out what we wanted to do, and walk there. The journey was often more fun.
In short, I had the ‘holy trinity’ nailed: healthy diet, portion control, and exercise.
And, of course, I had no real responsibilities. No family, and I was certainly the low person on the hierarchy, so my responsibilities were minimal. So food control ended up being my obsession.
What changed? Well, life changed – longer commutes, more responsibility. But, the real change was more outside interests, which led to less compulsiveness.about food and eating.
So here we are. It’s all about balance – not being obsessed about food or exercise, but being in control and making choices. Participating in the world, yet having enough personal space and time to exercise and relax. And all this while maintaining relationships, responsibilities, families.
No one ever said this would be easy, but it’s hard work.