Not quite sure how to start this post, so let me just plunge right in. It’s about the way we women talk to each other. It’s seems that our focus on our weight is a common bond and a major way we define ourselves.
Let me explain.
The past two days were spent in a company-wide meeting of all editors in my division. It’s a bunch of unbelievably smart people, with a few more women than men. One of the highlights was, of course, getting a chance to talk with everyone and forming a bond. I can’t begin to tell you how many conversations ran into weight/eating/exercise within the first 5 minutes!
And, in a bit of cosmic humor, the presenter at one session used the example of a feature she’d recently done – about anorexia in the fashion industry!
It’s a focus for all of us – those who have no intentions of losing more weight are focused on not gaining. Some are focusing on losing a few pounds, and others on more. And, of course, the ‘focus’ ranges from ‘hmm, this is just something I’m doing because it’s important’ to ‘I’m obsessed with every mouthful I eat and every minute of exercise I do,’ with many, many shades of grey in between.
I must confess I got a wee bit frustrated. After all, we have so many other things to talk about – the directions of the publications, corporate goals, vacations, funny things we’ve heard – that I must confess I started to avoid a couple of people.
We are all much more than a number on a scale [and I know that someone else around here wrote that comment]. The fact that some of us use the common issue of weight control to strike up friendships just doesn’t seem right. On the other hand, it’s also an immediate connection, and that’s what most people strive for when they are plunged into a group of people they don’t know well.
So, what did we eat? Everything! The buffet lunches were very healthy, and there was always plenty of water. But desserts – and the afternoon breaks – let’s just say I won’t indulge in food porn here!
Bottom line, balance is key. Not that I’m there yet!